Eldina is a young woman from Copenhagen who has chosen not to shave her hair. She’s made a name for herself by chronicling her journey on social media. She has also aided others in becoming more secure and being true to themselves rather than attempting to satisfy everyone.
Eldina didn’t decide to stop removing her facial hair out of nowhere, nor was it a sudden decision. It was a gradual process that turned out great for Eldina.
“I wouldn’t say it’s something that happened suddenly, but I became increasingly frustrated with having to remove hair for no apparent reason. I see men go outside without removing hair, so why do I have to? I realized that I could spend my time much better. I’m not against shaving or removing hair, but it’s the expectation that every woman should do it all the time that annoys me.”
The standards for men and women are different in the society we live in, not only Eldina, but other women who have spoken to her, feel this way: “A lot of women have written me and told me that they also feel pressure to remove all of their body hair, even though they don’t want to. But they feel pressured by society to do so, or have been bullied for having hair on their bodies.”
“A lot of women have written to me, saying that they felt like they were the only woman with facial hair or with prominent body hair. Where in reality, there are so many, and having body hair as a woman is not an extraordinary thing. I have gotten maybe 100 negative messages from men, and maybe 4-5 from women.
In terms of difference, I’ve earned a lot of attention for — well, basically not doing anything. It’s weird when you think about it since a man wouldn’t go viral for having prominent brows, so why would I?”
Being true to yourself is very important, and there will always be people who love you for who you truly are: “I think my advice would be, that if people don’t like you, you can always find new friends. You can always find other groups of people who will accept and value your thoughts and feelings. And do you really want to be liked for someone you’re not?”
According to Eldina: “I think that the beauty standards are super random. They change all the time. Something that’s very important now could be completely irrelevant in 10 years. So I can’t see why there is such an expectation for people, especially women, to fit into these standards.”
Lastly, Eldina shared some inspirational words that will make any of us reflect on how we live our lives: “I think it’s always a good idea to reflect on why you’re doing what you’re doing. And is it what you want, or are you doing it because of fear?”